Kuchh din se mere man me ek savaal tha ki kisee ko agar pyaar ho jaaye to parivaar use galat kyon maanleta he. Aisa kya hai kee India mein ise bahut highlight kiya jaata hai aur har love story me yehi baat bich mein kyon aati he.
Indian ke har parivaar kee yah soch hotee hai kee unakee santaan achhese padhe likhe aur apane pairompe khade hosake. Isalie saare parents unako achchhe school, college aur university mein admission karvaate he. Unako lagata he kee agar hamaari santaan ache school aur college mein padhe likhegee to aage jaake achchhi job milegee aur apane saath saath apane family ko bhee sambhaal legee. Unki santaan kobhi paristiti ka ahesaas hota hai aur o apane family ke sapane pure karne nikal padate
he.
Agar koi ache school aur college mein padhata likhata he to vaha aunki santaano ke saath hajaaro dure student hote he jo same sapana lekar vaha ate he. Saare student apani life jeene lagate hai unako duniya ke kai pahaloo dikhane lagate he. Padhaee aur aas paas ke maahaul ke kaaran kuchh student ko ek doosare se pyaar hota hai. Khuchh log time pass kelie pyaar karate he to kuchh life time kelie payaar karate he. Jo life time ke lie pyaar karate he unaka aisa hota hai kee unako apane family ke expectations ke baareme pata hota hai. Par unako jo life partner mila he o unako life time khush rakhega aur o usaki sari requirements me baith ta he. Jabatak college chalata he sab theek hota hai. College khatm hone ke baad jab sab apane family vaalee duniya mein vaapas jaate he.
Parents ko jab unake pyaar ke baareme pata chalata hai to unako aisa lagata hai kee donon ne bachpane mein ek doosare se pyaar kiya hoga. Aur donon ko samajha kar sab band karva dete hai. Aur apane santaan par ye aarop bhee karate he kee bahaar jaakar usane aisa kaand kar diya. Aur bina unaki marjee jaane donon ko doshi karaar dekar unaki shadi alag alag karava dete hai.
Aisi problem sabhi family mein dekhi jaati hai isaka kaaran paast se juda hai. Indan mein pahele education kee kami ke kaaran log bacho kee shadi karate the. Usake baad thode samajdar hogaye phir unaki shadi balik honepar karane lage. Baadame thode phiir samajdaar ho gaye ab unaki shadi government rule ke hisaab se 18 aur 21 ke baad kee jaati he. Lekin parents kee marji se, bacho kee marji lenemen abhi khuchh sal jaana baaki hai. Parents jinhonne khud bacho ko study karne apane pairo par khada karne unako duniya dekhane baahar bheja tha. Jab o duniya daikh kar samajdar hokar apane requirement ke hisab se kisi achhe partner se pyaar karate hai, unse shadi kee ichha karte hai to unako lagta he kee bighaad gaye.
Parents ko aaj jo partner bura lag raha he o bhee to kavara nahin marega usaki bheeto shadi hogi. Iska matlab o bhoora nahin hai par parents ko bura lagata he aur dusari jisake saath shadi huee hai unake parents ko sahi lagata he. In real iss duniya mein achha aur bura kuchh nahin hota bus ye bharam hota he kee shadi ke liye partners apsne cast ka hona chahiye aur parents ke requirement me baitha nevaala hona chahiye. Aisa koi ho to use achha mana jata hai.
Sachh baat to ye he kee parents ko khud nahin paata hota he kee unaki santaan kaisi he aur usake liye kees type ka partner thik he bus unaki apane hisab se arrange marriage karvaa dete he aur chod dete hai. Agar kisi kee life thik jaaye to usaka credit khud lete hai aur kisi kee life barbaad hojaye to usaka dosh couple ko dete hai.
Isase achha apani santaan ne jise apana partner chuna hai o usaki requirement ke hisaab se sahi hee hoga ye kab samjhenge. Aisa nahin he kee aankhe band karke accept karalo, balki apani santaan ke requirement mein sahi baithata he ki nahin isaki jaanch karo. zamaane ke hisaabse chala karo. Aajkal cast aur parents kee requirement ke hisaab se nahin chala ja sakata. Life donon ko nikalani he parents nahin honge unaki nijee jindagi ko dekhane kelie. Aaj kal job ke kaaran couple bhee apani apani jindagi mein goom ho jaate he to unake bich mein bhee anbandh ho sakati he. Par jaroo rat hai to bas mutual understanding kee jo unhonne ek doosareko saalose jaankar apane mein bana lihogi to unako samajh lo. Last me apane santaan kee Khushi jyaada matter karni chaahie na kee samaaj aur log kya sochenge. Samaaj unaka sansaar dekhane nahin aaye ga, shadi ke baad unaki life mein shirf unaki family hee hogi.
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